Yesterday, you reached out for feedback. Over the next few days/weeks, as responses come on, you might be feeling:
😰 Anxious: "What if they don't respond? What if they don't have anything good to say?"
🤔 Skeptical: "They're just being nice. They're exaggerating."
😶 Numb: "I see the compliments but I don't really feel them."
All of this is normal. You've been conditioned to focus on gaps, not gifts. This is our default mode: we are biased.
The mindset shift you need today
1. Your strengths feel effortless to you: That's why they're invisible
The things you do easily? You assume everyone can do them. They can't.
When someone says "You're so good at explaining complex things simply," your brain says: "That's not special, anyone could do that."
The truth: No, they literally can't. That's why they noticed it in you.
Today's mantra:
"What's easy for me is valuable to others."
So think about it for a little while: what is that thing you can do so easily, but others around you find hard? Let that sink in..
2. You're gathering personal intelligence
Each piece of feedback you are receiving is data about:
What people would pay you to do
What problems you solve without trying
Where you create value that others can't
Reframe: You're not asking "Am I good enough?"
You're asking: "Where am I already excellent, so I can do more of that?"
3. Stop Trying to Be Well-Rounded
The job market doesn't reward "pretty good at everything."
It rewards "exceptional at something specific."
You don't want a "decent all-around player": you want the star striker
Your mission: Be spiky. Be known for something. Be undeniable at one thing rather than forgettable at 10 things.
Today's mantra:
"I don't need to be good at everything. I need to be excellent at the right things."
Tomorrow we will be closing the week with D5 talking about your energy, and how to adjust it to your job search. See you tomorrow!
Yours,
Stephanie
